November 27, 2011
Listen to Someone's Story
Hearing adoption stories can be just as rewarding as sharing your own. It can also give you more insight into your own situation and experiences.
Be A Good Listener
The need to connect with others is a basic part of human nature. As humans, we strive to find someone who can understand us, who can relate, and who can help.
The act of adoption is a monumental task. There is so much to think about, so many things that could go wrong, and so much to understand. To adopt
alone without any help is almost impossible. We need to feel like we are not alone.
One way to dispel the feelings of isolation is by reaching out to others who are experiencing the same things. There are many people who are thinking about adoption, who are in the process of adopting, and who have finished the process.
I have been writing about adoption for years, sharing my stories with others as a way to belong to a community, but to also help others who are just starting the journey. The best way to belong to the adoption community is by finding blogs that relate to the specifics of your own adoption.
If you are just starting out and have yet to decide whether you want to adopt, or if you are trying to decide between domestic and international adoption, or if you have chosen, but want to learn more about the process, turn to the blogging community for more information. By reading the stories of others, you can learn, understand, and even participate in their process.
If you are in the middle of your journey, but the paperwork or waiting is threatening to overwhelm you, turn to the blogging community for support. I can guarantee you are not the only one feeling the way you do. Somehow, finding someone to relate with can always make you feel more sane…like you have a friend in the battle.
And if you have already brought home your bundle of joy, there are many bloggers out there who could benefit from your shared stories. By staying in the community after your adoption and helping others, it's an opportunity for you to pay it forward to a new family who has just started their journey.
With the dawn of the internet and computer age, finding a community to belong to is not as difficult as it once was. Take this opportunity to reach out to others and share a story. You will be surprised how fulfilling an adoption connection can be.